« a happy birth is a happy start in life »

Corentin is 20 months, his sleep is interrupted a lot, he cries a lot during the night, he seems to be scared. A friend of his father committed suicide recently and his father is upset. The parents think it might be the reason for his anxiety. But Corentin is worried about something else, he wants to say that he is scared that his father might leave his mother, he feels totally incapable because his parents are sad and he believes that his role is to keep them happily together. During the session, his parents explain that his role is to be happy himself, and that his parents are responsible for themselves and for their couple. They add that they are working on their relationship and are willing to make it work. They did not realise how affected their son was by the situation. Corentin odds and says « yes » every time we say something right even though he is playing by our side. His parents continue the reassuring work at home and Corentin finds his sleep again, he stops crying during the night.

Loris cries a lot, he has reflux and had a difficult birth. His parents are exhausted. Loric says that he is scared not to be loved by his parents, he feels he is a burden for them. His father expressed his difficulty of being in a relationship with him as he has a very strong relationship with his eldest son, but he "feels" the answers of Loric before I even test them on him, he realises how connected he is to Loric and how he can take care of his needs. Loris's parents are now able to tell him how much they love him and how happy they are to have him in their lives.

Anna is 2 months old, she cries continuously, she seems in pain from the reflux but she is also very angry but her parents don't know why. Anna expresses her fear to be sick all her life and not to be able to rejoyce at being born. Anna continues expressing her concern about her parents being so tired because of her, she fears one day they will simply leave her. She starts crying very hard. Her parents reassure her that she will get better soon and won't be sick all her life, they will find solutions and one day she won't be in pain anymore and that hey love her deeply and will never leave her. She stops crying right away. The work continues at home, the reflux is still there but she no longer goes into panic and anger, she is becoming a smiling baby.

Antoine is 18 months, he is scared of grass... His parents cannot put him in the garder, he refuses to touch grass. Antoine expresses his anxiety linked to his incapacity of exploring the world and come back to safety, he says he would like his parents to be more trustful. His parents confirm that they are scared for him just about for everything, they see danger around him everywhere. They realise the impact of their belief that the world is a dangerous place on their son and start reasuringq him, they tell him they trust hime. The work continues at home and the next day Antoine plays happily in the garden.

Three month pregnant, J. feels her baby is worried, she has lost blood at the beginning of pregnancy. Her baby expresses his sadness to have lost a twin, he feels responsible for not being able to save him and he is scared to leave too. J. reassures him, she explains to her baby what has happened, how he is not responsible for the departure of his twin and how happy she is that he is there. she tells him he is going to stay, he is in no danger to go.

Arthur is 9 months, he refuses to take the bottle. He expresses that artificial milk is toxic for him and he refuses to take it. He is happy with other foods. He says that gluten is toxic for him and he is scared for his mother as he says that it's dangerous for her. He wants his mother to look after herself and do some exams, which she does. The exams show that she is celiac and that she must stop all gluten.

Babies have so much to share and so much to say. They are full of emotions, believe systems (often wrongly negative ones that need to be replaced by nurturing ones). Allowing babies to express their internal world enables parents to develop a new relationship with their baby, more understanding and empathic, whether before or after birth. Talking with babies is no miracle problem solver, it's just a way to explore their inner emotional world, to voice their discomfort, concerns or fears. It frees both babies and parents. It's a tool for parents who want to have a deeper understanding of their child.